Teach love to those who hate, and let that love embrace you as you go out into the world. May the teachings of those you admire become part of you, so that you may call upon them. Remember, those whose lives you have touched and whose have touched yours are always a part of you, even if the encounters were less than you would have wished. It is the content of the encounter that is more important than the form.
May you not become too concerned with material matters, but instead place immeasurable value on the goodness in your heart. Find time each day to see beauty and love in the world around you. Realize that each person has limitless abilities, but each of us is different in our own way. What you feel you lack in the present may become one of your strengths in the future. May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility. Learn to view everything as a worthwhile experience. May you find enough inner strength to determine your own worth by yourself, and not be dependent on another's judgment of your accomplishments. May you always feel loved.
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However, they failed to consider the fact that if pain will play with us, reality shall take place. There would be no more psuedo. Neither the argument of “sabay sa agos ng mundo” nor the condition of “bahala na” shall take the strong probative value in defending one’sfeelings while in the state of confusion.
Now, if such instance shall bring you the proper conclusion, you must consider that
there are things called:
Albeit, it was only the state of PSEUDO while waiting for the real thing, real thing is within our hands, and we should not wait for it because we just failed to admit the reality.
Being real depends on us…
not because of the state of you and me..
but because of being US…
Let us all remember that in terms of the greatest thing in the whole world,
there is no applicable SURGERY for a broken heart…
We cannot conceal the reality although it just came from psuedo…
pseudo is not really pseudo.. it is really REAL..
we are just not AWARE OF IT… or may be we refused to admit it..
why? there is only one reason:
We are forcing one’s selves to believe these DAMN FEELINGS!
Chosen by Mohamed Baianonie, Imam of the Islamic Center of Raleigh, NC
All praises and thanks to God, The Creator and Lord of all that
exists, and peace and blessings upon all of His Messengers.
O' our Lord, You are As-Salaam (The Peace) and the ultimate
peace comes from You alone; we ask You to bless us all with
peace and safety.
[From the supplications of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) after the five
obligatory, daily prayers]
We ask You, our Lord The Granter of security, to bless us and our
families, our neighborhoods and communities, our nations and the
world with everlasting peace and security.
You are the Creator of the heavens and the earth. You have
created mankind in different colors, languages, nations and tribes
so that we may get to know one another and live in harmony. The
best among us in Your sight is the one who has the highest piety.
[Adapted from the Qur'an, the Muslim holy book, 30:22; 49:13]
O' our Lord The Just, make us among those who believe that you
have created all people equally and that we are all brothers and
sisters. Only You can help us live our lives accordingly.
We ask You, our Lord the Guide, to open the hearts and minds of
mankind to value each and every human life, so that the bloodshed
and destruction stop immediately. And we ask You, our Patient
Lord, to grant patience to those who suffer from the destruction
and violence committed by others.
We ask You, the Compassionate Lord, to bestow Your
mercy upon those who are
suffering from disease, poverty, oppression, and war.
We ask You, God our Protector, to protect the oppressed and help
them rebuild their lives and fill the hearts of the oppressors with
O' Lord, You are the Loving One, replace the hatred in our hearts
with love, mercy, and compassion for even our worst enemies.
Take away our arrogance and replace it with humility so that we
may forgive and tolerate one another.
O' our Lord, give us patience during times of anger so that we may
forgive those who treat us unjustly. O' Lord, make us among those
faithful believers who respond to evil with something better. O' our
Lord, help us follow Your teachings of patience and forgiveness,
so that our worst enemies can become our closest friends.
[Adapted from the Qur'an, 41:34]
Those were my words when I was about to enter law school. I was to determined to succeed in my law studies. In fact, law school, codal provisions, cases, recitations, and exams were the only things that I thought about during my first two months in class.
Many of my block mates who entered law school with a boyfriend or girlfriend ended law school with a boyfriend ended up splitting with their special someone after two or three months. This made me realize more that love and law school really do not mix. I had no problem with that. I was not looking for a boyfriend, and I definitely was not looking for love in law school. Love and boys were not even on my list of priorities.
Then something happened, I don’t know how, but it happened. Some time in August I realized that I had become human again.
We were seat mates. We used to eat lunch together. We joked around when we were not busy with school work. And he would often drop me off at my apartment on his way home.
We were friends, purely friends. He was just like any other guy friend I had. The only difference was that, we saw each other every day because we belonged to the same black in school.
One day, I dreamed of him. Maybe that was because we were always together. I told him about it in a text message. We started to “flirt” with each other – in jest. Then one thing led to another. We were happy (or was I the only one feeling this?)
But there was one problem. He had a girlfriend, a girlfriend whom he truly and dearly loved. Believe it or not, he loved her, I could feel it.
Fact No. 1: She was his priority. Fact No. 2: I loved him. So, I accepted Fact No. 1 because of Fact No. 2. I was sharing time with his girl. Of course, I had his “left-over time,” those times when he was not needed by his girl. But I did not want to think of myself as just an option for him. I wanted to believe that he cared or maybe even loved me.
Months passed, and problems started to arise. There were lots of school works to do. We had to study for the exams, and had to do so many case digests. He thought I was becoming demanding.
I knew from the start that I had no “right” over him since I was not his girlfriend. But because of this same fact, I felt insecure. So I asserted my non-existing rights. I became clingy, demanding and possessive.
I got into his nerves. He told me we ought to know where we stood in relation to other people. And he reminded me that I knew from the start that he was committed.
We had our bad times, but still continued with whatever it was that we had. Then he told me the news that they had broken up. He was devastated, but he told me that he wanted us to still be okay with each other.
But after saying that, he started to ignore me. Neither would he answer my calls nor reply to my text messages. It was as if I was suddenly non-existent to him.
I came back to senses. And the truth hit me badly. How blind and stupid can a law student get? How could I not have realized from the beginning that he really did not care that much for me (that is, if he ever cared at all)? Memories of us together, both good and bad, came back to me. I should have known where I stood when one time he suddenly left me after his girlfriend called. He left without even telling me that he was leaving. I went to the parking lot, and his car was gone. He brought with him all my things, without worrying how I’d get home. So much for caring.
It is a cliché, but truth really hurts. It hurts to that the person whom you truly love and care for did not, cannot and will not even care for you. I am still hurting. And I do not know if this hurt is going to leave me at all.
In law, when a person suffers an injury, he or she is entitled to relief by filing a case for damages. If denied by a lower court, he or she can file a motion for reconsideration, appeal to the appellate court, or even elevate the case to the Supreme Court.
But in my case, I am not entitled to any relief. Why? Reason No. 1: Law different from love. Law and love are governed by different rules. But assuming that the rules applied to law is applicable to love, I am still not entitled to relief because of Reason No. 2: I have unclean hands. There is a rule in law that no relief or remedy is available from the courts for a person with unclean hands (except in exceptional cases, which I am certain does not include love). I knew from the start that he had a girlfriend. I was in conspiracy with him when he cheated on his girl, or at the very least I was an accomplice to the crime (cheating). Because of this, I am now left with no relief for my injured heart.
I cannot appeal to him and beg him to love me. My only hope lies in making an appeal to heaven. I have already filed one, but my appeal is still pending. With my patron saint, St. Jude (the saint for hopeless cases), hopefully as my counsel, I hope and pray that the Supreme Judge will grant it.
But right now, I’ve got myself together and prepare for the lessons ahead. I’ll just have to wait for the decision on my case. I love him so. I pray that the decision favors me.
Published in the Philippine Daily Inquirer - Youngblood